Impostor Syndrome

impostor syndromeHave you ever heard of impostor syndrome? I’ve heard it referred to many times listening to various personal development. Enough that I wanted to research and understand impostor syndrome. First of all, I thought it was a joke…kind of like saying network marketing and direct sales is a pyramid scheme.

Impostor Syndrome

Individuals that remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be. – Wikipedia

Do you need to read that again? Yes. There are successful people who feel like they do not belong and are frauds.

Of course, I want to relate this to business, but this could be anyone from college students to famous people. A fear of inadequacy like they do not belong and will be found to be fraud.

So, what does this have to do with me? Why are we discussing this? I’m not even successful yet.

Impostor Syndrome can exist in all of us a bit. I know it exists in me.

  • Maybe I just got lucky, I don’t know what I’m doing
  • Why would someone listen to me
  • I’m not really that successful
  • No one is watching, reading, or even cares what I’m doing

5 Ways to Fight Impostor Syndrome

I want to address some things you can do today to help you face your fears and get out of your comfort zone while building belief and confidence in yourself.

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
    • Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s. Most of the time we only hear about the good or see the success, but do not know what it took to get there or the story behind it. AKA: The glory without the story.
  2. Know that you are the only one that will reach some.
    • Yes, your story is different. Because you are YOU and someone will relate perfectly to you, your story, your journey…and by not sharing that you are robbing others of their opportunity.
  3. No regrets.
    • Life is short. Do you want to feel like you didn’t go for the opportunities presented to you or do you want to live with regret that you didn’t because you doubted yourself and had a fear of success? Sounds almost silly.
  4. Be honest
    • No one says you have to position yourself as an expert. Just be you, be honest, and be real and relatable. This doesn’t make you a fraud. There is nothing wrong with admitting when you  do not know something, but will find out.
  5. Journal
    • Just get those thoughts out of your head. They are limiting beliefs.
    • Be honest with yourself and put those fears on paper.
    • In addition, I want you to write down what you are grateful for as well. Your beliefs are powerful.

Have you ever suffered from impostor syndrome? I’d love for you to comment below with your thoughts or feel free to send me an e-mail. I look forward to hearing from you.

Leslie McKerchie

Leslie McKerchie

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2 thoughts on “Impostor Syndrome

  1. Yes! I suffer from imposter syndrome in quite a few areas of life. In business I felt like I was pretending my success instead of embracing it. At church I am trying to become closer to God and joining groups and committees and order to try to help that process. I totally feel like a fraud there but I am still trying!

  2. All great points.
    As I continue to strive towards further success, sometimes we feel like we are just not there. I have to take a moment and appreciate how far I’ve come and what I have succeeded in.
    I didn’t think about the church aspect, and that is a great point as well. It’s not that we mean to skip the steps, but sometimes we strive to be like others and forget their journey to where they are.
    Love it all! Thanks for sharing.

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